Dealing with grief is always difficult. At times we often push the feelings down and hope they go away by themselves and often they do, but often they can resurface when we least expect it.
Every person deals with grief differently, even when a number of family members are grieving the same loss, some examples are below:
Pushing feelings away and not speaking about it;
Crying uncontrollably;
Feelings of deep sadness years later and not understanding why you feel this way;
Feelings of Depression;
Feeling Anger;
Feelings of Sadness
Not crying at all and questioning yourself as to why when others are showing emotions;
Filling your days with social events to keep you busy and then feeling worn down and tired at the end of each day;
Tiredness and lethargic;
Anxiety and excessive worrying.
Reach Out for the Support You Need
It is of great importance to deal with these feelings when you are ready to do so as by reaching out for support, you can begin to normalise the thoughts and feelings of grief and loss
Each person goes through their grief differently, if you feel stuck which is common, please reach out to a trusted friend, a counsellor, or a colleague.
As mentioned above, each person in the world deals with grief differently, remember not to believe that if you are not crying that you don’t care, each person is completely different and deals with difficult and sad situations in their own unique way.
It is ok to be sad, an idea could be to write a letter to the person who has passed away, tell them how you feel and what they meant to you, it is such a loss in our lives and the feelings are difficult. It is important to be kind to yourself.
Keep a journal of what that person meant to you and the times you shared together.
Guilt can sometimes be a part of grieving, feeling guilt about still being here when a loved one is no longer with us, guilt is not a positive emotion and only holds us back from being present, remember that the reason the pain can often be difficult to bear is because of the love you shared, the upside is that you had the opportunity to feel true love and give true love and your loved one will always be part of you, so keep your heart open as you can give that love to family friends and of course, importantly to yourself.
Give Yourself Space to Grieve in Your Own Way and Time
Some people internalise the pain and pretend everything is fine and yet they feel pain within, others show their grief outwardly, there are no rules, each person needs support and comfort.
Remember there are opportunities to speak to counsellors at your community centre and also through your work environment, all part of a private and confidential service, a library is a good source of support to find books and online information, order DVDs or CDs from your local library to help with what you are going through, there are meet up groups including online meet up groups with people dealing with grief and loss, you will be welcomed. You could try some deep breathing exercises to calm your mind and body, simple and easy breaths throughout the day.
Be Kind to Yourself and Seek the Support You Need
Grief does not always come in the form of the loss of a loved one, it can also be in the loss of a job or career, health, a partner, a child, a parent, a friend, a neighbour, a colleague, a pet, and the list goes on, every grief is important and significant.
Be kind to yourself and reach out for support.
Speak to others who have gone through the same or similar time as you have, it is comforting to always know you are never alone and especially during this difficult time.
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